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Toronto Portrait Photographer || HEARTshots || Black + White Photography

Memoirs and musings of Darius Bashar. Toronto portrait photographer and writer, in pursuit of all things real, raw and intimate. 

When Things Go Right, Sometimes We Fall Apart

So many amazing things have happened in the last few weeks. You guys have sent in hundreds of comments, voice notes, emails, and texts in response to my recent social media content. And by many metrics, the content’s been really working.

You would think this would be a moment of celebration for me.

And for the most part, it is.

But it’s not that simple.

Because while a part of me is happy, another part of me is sort of terrified of what’s going on.

And I think that’s okay. Here’s what I’ve learned over the years…

Sometimes in the process of finding success, we encounter hidden parts of us that want nothing to do with our newfound growth.

It’s not because those parts are evil or have a plan to destroy us or forever hold us back. In fact, I resent when people refer to these parts of me as self-sabotage. That implies that this part of me that is afraid is a saboteur, and will forever be malicious and work against me. I don’t believe this to be true at all.

It’s too easy to ignore or deny those parts and just forge forward with a big smile on our face. 

It’s too easy to only talk about what’s going great, while denying that there may be a deep-seated fear growing within us. 

It’s easy, but it’s not the truth.

The truth is that this part of me is just doing his best to protect my heart.

And I love and appreciate all that he does. 

For today’s video I have a conversation with the part of me that’s terrified by all the wonderful things from the past few weeks. I didn’t go in to blame him or fix him or even judge him. I went in to listen, support and to love him.

Do you guys have a part that is not ready for growth and success or is it just me? 

Coming soon.